#Suarez debate is latest example of player not realizing he's actor in global soap opera. #EPL is a TV drama, behave accordingly @cnnfc

— Ben Wyatt (@BenWyattCNN) April 22, 2013

The Miami Heat’s loss in Chicago on Wednesday was their first defeat in nearly two months and snapped a 27-game win streak.

Miami had needed just seven more wins to beat the all-time NBA mark of 33 consecutive wins held by the 1971-72 L.A. Lakers.

Despite falling short in their history bid, Miami should be praised and respected by basketball fans around the world.

The NBA has long been criticized for teams not taking the regular season seriously enough, and only kicking into gear come the post-season. Even casual basketball fans often admit to bypassing most of the mid-season games and tuning in once the play-offs begin.

LeBron James, coming off a first career Championship last season, has proved that regular season basketball does mean something.

In arguably the best form of his career, James inspired his team to give it their all - night-in and night-out for the best part of two months.

During that remarkable stretch, the Heat won at Oklahoma City - the team they beat in last year’s Finals - overcame a 27-point deficit in Cleveland (LeBron’s former team) and held on in Boston despite a 43-point performance from Jeff Green of the Celtics.

Yes, Miami faced bad teams during the win streak as well, but there’s something to be said for a good team actually beating the teams it’s supposed to beat.

That’s not as easy as it sounds.

Just look back at San Antonio (first in West) losing in Minnesota (13th in West) earlier this month.

In the end, Miami will probably win a second straight NBA title come June.

But titles are won by teams every season, and it’s not every season that you see a team leave it all on the floor over a sustained period of time.

That should not soon be forgotten by Heat fans and rivals alike.

This Sunday English football’s two most successful clubs and fierce rivals will contest one of the season’s most eagerly-awaited fixtures.

But the meeting of Liverpool and Manchester United at Anfield is even more significant this time around as it will surely provide a litmus test for just how grown up English football is, or whether it wants to remain forever mired in a warped world of childlike abuse and tribalism.

It is barely a fortnight since the Paralympics ended, an event that signalled the conclusion of six weeks of sport in Britain that media commentators purred over as one of the nation’s finest moments.

Six weeks of golden medals and moments, six weeks of a nation apparently gathering at the pub or at the water cooler, six weeks when millions of fans attended events up and down the country without a hint of trouble.

Given what has been going in the Premier League over the last two weeks those memories already feel a lifetime away.

Last weekend Manchester United had to publicly condemn the abusive chanting of some of its fans during a win over Wigan as they taunted Liverpool supporters in response to the publication of the report into the Hillsborough disaster.

Those fans sang "It's never your fault, it's never your fault, always the victims, it's never your fault,” despite manager Alex Ferguson’s call ahead of the game for calm and: “for supporters of these two great clubs to represent their clubs with the integrity and honor that our glorious history demands."

However, those chants are positively mild compared to some of the abuse being tapped out by keyboard warriors on internet forums.

In the aftermath of the publication of the Hillsborough report, one of the more polite United posters questioned why it was that Liverpool supporters had been involved in two stadium disasters, a reference to Heysel, when 39 fans were killed ahead of the 1985 European Cup final between Juventus and the Merseyside club.

The social media abuse surrounding football was referenced in a Parliamentary report on Wednesday that concluded English football continues to be troubled by the scourge of racism, as well as homophobia and “laddish” behaviour.

“Recent incidents of racist abuse in the UK, both on and off the pitch, have highlighted the fact that there remain significant problems,” concluded the report.

One of those recent incidents is a reference to the racism cases involving Patrice Evra of Manchester United and Liverpool’s Luis Suarez as well as Chelsea's John Terry and Anton Ferdinand of QPR.

In December, the English Football Association handed Suarez an eight-match ban and a £40,000 fine after finding the Uruguayan guilty of racially abusing Evra.

While Suarez was suspended, Liverpool knocked United out of the FA Cup at Anfield and Evra was booed by Reds supporters every time he touched the ball.

Following that game Merseyside Police arrested a 59-year-old man from north Wales after the publication on the internet of a picture appearing to show a Liverpool fan making a “monkey” gesture.

Relations between the clubs and the fans deteriorated further after Suarez had served his ban. The Uruguayan refused to shake Evra’s hand in a league meeting at Old Trafford.

On Saturday, QPR defender Anton Ferdinand also refused to shake the hand of Chelsea captain John Terry  following allegations Terry made racist comments to Ferdinand last season.

That prompted Professional Footballers' Association chief Gordon Taylor to suggest the current handshake row was in danger of becoming a "mafia feud".

It might sound hard to believe but the game is less toxic that in used to be.

In the 1980s, in one meeting between Liverpool and United at Old Trafford, some Liverpool fans came armed with inflatable aeroplanes – a reference to the Munich air disaster when eight United players were among 23 people who died in a plane crash in 1958 – while in the aftermath there were repeated skirmishes between the rival sets of fans.

Even so a female friend, who has an Arsenal season-ticket holder, recently told me she had no wish to attend away matches as she found the atmosphere too intimidating.

Both Liverpool, who will be playing at Anfield for the first time since the publication of the Hillsborough report, and United have been in talks this week as to how best demonstrate the need for good relations between the two clubs.

Suarez and Evra are expected to shake hands before the game, while Liverpool captain Steven Gerrard and United skipper Nemanja Vidic will release 96 balloons shortly before kick-off in memory of those who died in the 1989 Hillsborough tragedy.

"We will support them in every way we can,” said United manager Ferguson. “We are supportive of Liverpool."

This week Manchester has had its own reasons to mourn after two policewomen, PC Fiona Bone and PC Nicola Hughes, were killed while on duty in the Greater Manchester area and United will wear black armbands in honour of the women.

But it will be the reaction of both sets of supporters at Anfield that will be most closely watched.

Tribalism runs deep in English football and it is arguable that it is what makes the game such a compelling spectacle. But how far should tribalism go?

Will Evra be booed by Liverpool supporters? Is he being booed because he is a United player or because Liverpool fans feel a sense of grievance over the FA’s punishment for Suarez?

In turn will Suarez be taunted by United fans with the chant of “racist”? Or are they booing him because he is perceived to be a diver? In the 21^st century is it acceptable to boo or taunt a rival player or fan?

There will be many thousands who will watch Sunday’s match, whose only concern will be to support their team as voraciously as possible.

But it will be the actions of those minority fans – for want of a better word the English equivalent of the ultras – that will be most closely monitored.

And it will be the actions of the minority that will provide a sense of just how English fans can expect to experience football over the coming years.

Do you want to watch a game of football with an undercurrent of vitriol and abuse? Or do you want to be able to take your son and daughter to a game without worrying about whether you will be sitting next to a foul-mouthed supporter, who prefers to spend most of a match abusing an opposition player and sometimes even members of their team? Or is your idea of support or entertainment to sing songs mocking the dead?

Anfield on Sunday will provide a glimpse of English football’s future.

To play, or not to play, that was the question facing Novak Djokovic – or so some thought!

As World No.1, the Serb was entitled to a $2 million bonus if he played all eight World Tour Masters 1000 tournaments and $1.6 million if he played seven of the eight.

Having already missed the Shanghai tournament because of a back injury, Djokovic had to play in Paris, or else he’d end up with nothing -– but then there was that reoccurrence of a shoulder injury in Basel. .

Only Djokovic knew how bad it was. Would he play at Bercy – would he pass – or would he show up, cash in and leave? Speculation was rife that he’d do the latter.

But, hang on. We’re talking about a man who has won over $10 million in prize money alone this year and who has such a terrific image that he’s now thought of as the biggest character in men’s tennis, let alone the stand-out player.

Did we really think he was going to play one point against second round opponent Ivan Dodig and shake hands? Of course not! It would have ruined his reputation and put a black mark on a terrific year.

We’d all be talking about Djokovic the mercenary, not Djokovic the marvel.
Had he not thought he could have won the tournament, I believe he wouldn’t have played.
It’s as simple as that. With the ATP World Tour finals coming up there was no chance he would have risked further injury.

He said at the start of the tournament that this injury wouldn’t worsen by playing, but it might become more inflamed and more painful -– and that’s what happened as Djokovic withdrew before his quarterfinal match with Jo-Wilfried Tsonga in Paris with the same shoulder injury.

In typical fashion, he apologized to the many fans who bought tickets to see him and said quote: "I have pushed myself to the limit by playing and, after the match yesterday, my shoulder got worse. For this reason, I have to put my health first and withdraw - even though my urges as a professional player are making me want to play until the last drop of energy."

So now he has just over a week to recover until the season-ender, which is a final chance for him to stamp his domination on the rest of the field.

Despite the fact that he probably won’t be 100% by then, who would bet against him? Novak has lost just four matches this season – two of which were retirements!

The final day of the summer transfer market is set to be as frantic as ever. I have a few friends who are football agents and I know that on this day they don’t sleep, they don’t eat, and they don’t exist outside of any conversation that doesn’t involve transfers.

Like always, I expect a few big deals to be concluded on Wednesday. Some big clubs still have money to spend and managers are still hoping to convince their owners to splash the cash. Below you will find a list of ten deals I would like to see happen on Wednesday. Some you could say are a case of wishful thinking, but others could happen in the final hours of the market.

Luka Modric moves from Tottenham to Chelsea The Blues have courted the Croatian midfielder all summer long and he would definitely be a great addition to a side that desperately needs some creativity. Juan Mata was a good signing, but Modric would add a different dimension to Chelsea’s midfield. They would automatically become more dynamic and less predictable with him in the team. I know Andre Villas-Boas really rates Modric highly and he will try to convince Roman Abramovich to open the purse strings to bring him over to Stamford Bridge. Tottenham have resisted so far in allowing their star midfielder to leave but they don’t want a grumpy Modric in the dressing room all season long.
Likelihood of happening – 9/10

Per Mertesacker from Werder Bremen to Arsenal Arsenal don’t need one defender, they need three or four. The Gunners should also be in the market for a midfielder and probably a striker as well. So we could see a busy day at the Emirates Stadium on Wednesday if Arsene Wenger finally decides to improve an unbalanced squad. One player he should tie up is Mertesacker, an experienced centre back who will add solidity to a back line which has looked extremely shaky this season. The tall German international is great in the air and also has the necessary ball skills to build from the back.
Likelihood of happening – 8/10

Diego from Wolfsburg to Atletico Madrid A few seasons ago, Diego was one of the most talented attacking midfielders in the world. After a couple of indifferent seasons at Juventus and Wolfsburg, his stock has fallen but he is still a good buy for any major club. The Brazilian has great close control and still possesses the skills necessary to unlock any defence. He’s still only 26 and would love to have a couple of great years leading up to the World Cup in Brazil. Atletico have been negotiating with Diego and Wolfsburg for a couple of weeks now and since Felix Magath isn’t desperate to keep him, a deal should be done.
Likelihood of happening – 8/10

Sebastian Coates from Nacional to Liverpool The young Uruguayan centre-back really impressed me at the Copa America. Standing tall at 1.99m, he is an imposing figure and seems ready to make the leap to European football. Liverpool definitely need some cover for Daniel Agger and Martin Skrtel who have been irregular and often injured. Coates would be a great fit in a young team that is definitely getting more and more pieces which will allow them to contend for major honors for years to come.
Likelihood of happening – 7/10

Fernando Gago from Real Madrid to Roma Many people have forgotten about this classy central midfielder who was once compared to Fernando Redondo. Gago has suffered various injuries which have hampered his progress in European football and which have limited his first team opportunities at Real Madrid. He is still a solid player and will add some steel to a Roma team that is in a rebuilding phase right now. The Argentine international will probably join on loan with Roma getting an option to buy him at the end of the season. Could be one of the bargains of the summer.
Likelihood of happening – 7/10

Alvaro Pereira from FC Porto to Chelsea Another South American player is on the move. Uruguayan wing back Pereira is keen to meet up with his former coach at Porto and a deal could be done in the next few hours. Pereira can play anywhere on the left and is a similar player to Fabio Coentrao and Gareth Bale. He will add some speed and skill to a team that needs these attributes desperately. Villas-Boas has been working the phones trying to get his former club to let Pereira go. He would probably take Florent Malouda’s starting position in Chelsea’s starting XI.
Likelihood of happening – 6/10

Daniele De Rossi from Roma to Manchester City The talk surrounding what would be a surprising move for De Rossi has intensified in the Italian press over the next couple of days leading me to believe that this deal could happen. De Rossi has been at Roma his whole career but after a couple of disappointing seasons, he could be looking for a change of scenery and the club could be tempted to cash in on their inspirational yet confrontational midfielder. A transfer worth $35 million has been rumored and he would be a great addition to a Manchester City side becoming better and better every day.
Likelihood of happening – 5/10

Lassana Diarra from Real Madrid to AC Milan Lassana is one of my favorite defensive midfielders in the world. He can tackle, he can pass and he makes people around him better. He didn’t really fit into Jose Mourinho’s master plan at Real Madrid but that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with him. He has played at a lot of clubs in a short period of time but might find a permanent home in Milan. The Rossoneri have lost Andrea Pirlo to Juventus and Mathieu Flamini to a serious injury so they need some bodies in midfield. Diarra would be an excellent signing.
Likelihood of happening – 5/10

Wesley Sneijder from Inter to Manchester United This transfer has been talked about all summer long and it could still happen. Do I expect it to? Honestly no, but it would be a match made in football heaven. Sneijder would add the one ingredient which Manchester United are still missing – creativity in the centre of midfield. The Red Devils have everything else and they would genuinely be able to challenge Barcelona and Real Madrid with the addition of the Dutch master in midfield. For Inter it would be a huge loss but with Sneijder seemingly ready to make a move to the Premier League, Massimo Moratti could be tempted to let him go for a fee in the region of $60 million. I wouldn’t let him go for anything less.
Likelihood of happening – 2/10

Kaka to ??? It is a shame to see a player as talented as Kaka sitting on the Real Madrid bench. He showed everyone what he could still do just this past weekend by scoring a great goal against Zaragoza and the Brazilian playmaker must be wishing that a big club comes in with a last minute bid to take him away from Madrid. He has been linked with Milan, Tottenham and Arsenal and every time he has come out and said he is staying at Real. As much as I am sure he is committed to the cause at the Bernabeu, I am also sure that he would love to be a star again.
Likelihood of happening – 1/10

21 stages – 3,430 kilometers - that's the challenge facing the riders at the 2011 Tour de France. No wonder it's also called the Tour of Pain! And this year, as a way of honoring 100 years of climbing the giant Col du Galibier - the participants will go up not once, but twice - with the end of the 18th stage being the highest finish in the Tour's history.

Alberto Contador and Andy Schleck are expected to be the front runners for the overall leader's maillot jeune.

Contador is one of only five riders in history to have won all three of the sport's Grand Tours, and as the world's best climber, will certainly be relishing the third and final week.

But having just won the Giro d'Italia, on a course which was arguably the toughest ever, and with a doping case hanging over him, which he denies, there are questions about the Spaniard's mindset.

I was horrified to hear that he was booed at Thursday's team presentation. As cycling commentator Paul Sherwen told me on ‘World Sport,’ shouldn’t he be presumed innocent? If he is, and I believe he is, what a terrible experience to have? Let’s hope he has a thick-skin!

Andy Schleck will take confidence from the fact that no one has been able to win the Giro and the Tour de France in the same year since the late Marco Pantani did it in 1998.

The Leopard-Trek rider finished just 39 seconds behind winner Contador last year and was the only man able to match the Spaniard in the mountains. A strong team which includes his brother Frank just might give him the boost he needs to win his first Tour at the age of 26.

Team Sky is putting their faith in 31-year-old Bradley Wiggins, who is determined to make up for a disappointing Tour last year. He finished fourth in 2009 and won the prestigious Dauphine Libere warm-up this time around which points to a possible podium finish.

Only the finest athletes can win the Tour de France. It's a grueling three week journey, much more than just a test of endurance, and only the strong will survive.

Okay Liverpool FC it’s time. Caretaker manager Kenny Dalglish deserves to be handed a nice meaty contract now! What more must the King do?

Having taken over from the unpopular Roy Hodgson (who’s since done very well at West Brom) Dalglish has secured 27 points from 14 league games -– and for a considerable amount of that time he’s been without influential captain Steven Gerrard.

The Kop loves him, fans all around the world love him and it’s obvious his players love him too. I saw that first hand at Anfield in March when the Reds crushed arch-rivals Manchester United 3-1. I must say, I quite enjoyed that victory!

Recently, even Sir Alex Ferguson said that Liverpool will be in the reckoning next season and as Kenny rightly said, Fergie is not often wrong.

What’s been most impressive about Dalglish’s second stint in charge has been his use of the ‘kids.’

Take a look at the teamsheet for the 5-0 win over Birmingham and you’ll see Flanagan, Robinson, Shelvy, Spearing and Coady -– names really only familiar to Liverpool supporters.

And these are just some of the youngsters who have either been brought through the terrific academy, or signed from other clubs before they got too expensive.

There are also 16-year-olds Raheem Sterling and Adam Morgan to get excited about, plus a whole host of others.

Former manager Rafael Benitez must be credited for the Academy’s resurgence, but it’s Dalglish who’s had the foresight and guts to use these young men and show them that they have a future at Liverpool.

At other clubs these players are often sold on with the money spent to buy experienced talent -– but surely Liverpool’s way is the way of the future.

New owners Fenway Sports Group seem to be right behind Kenny. There is money there if he wants to buy -– as he did in January when Suarez and Carroll came in – but it’s not a Manchester City-type situation and the majority of Liverpool fans must surely be glad about that.

Who doesn’t want to see home-grown talent come through? It’s a lot more exciting knowing that these boys could be the next Gerrard, Carragher or even Owen. And good on Dalglish for bringing them to our attention.

The future at Anfield is bright and King Kenny must be in charge, permanently!

Sport has already played a part in Japan's recovery, with people taking shelter in local gymnasiums.

Of course, there is only so much the sympathetic words of athletes like American tennis star Andy Roddick can do. Respectful gestures, like the wearing of black armbands or the staging of a minute’s silence, are symbolic for the victims but offer no solution.

But then athletes, like the rest of us, are in an impossible situation when responding to national tragedies.

"It's very difficult to put yourself in the place of a person who has lost everything and is looking for their loved ones amid all that debris," alpine skier Didier Cuche said recently.
That said, while it's tough for athletes to empathize they can obviously sympathize, and sport is a past master in matching kind words with good deeds.

And make no mistake; sport does have a role to play in assisting with Japan’s recovery. Clearly, there’s the fund-raising aspect. We’ve already heard of a number of sporting initiatives that will generate cash and maintain awareness of Japan’s plight.

But there’s also the less tangible way in which sport can help, because in most countries sport is about much more than wins and losses, it is part of the culture.

Indeed, last week, its healing power was noted by the general secretary of the Japanese Football Association, Kozo Tashima, in relation to some upcoming friendlies that he had hoped would go ahead.

“We need to send a message to the rest of the world,” Tashima said. “We need to inform them that Tokyo is functional, that the city is okay and order is being restored.

“The entire Japanese football community needs to help the country get back on its feet again. Not just soccer, but I think the whole sports world in Japan needs to step up for the nation.”

And step up it will, because that is what sport does. It is of the people, for the people. And while, out of necessity, it gets marginalized on the occasions when a major catastrophe strikes, its impact is only dormant.

Japan will rise again and sport will be an agents of that renaissance. It is a moral-booster, not peripheral to the culture but an integral part of it, and one of the true barometers of a society in good health.

The last 12 months have seen plenty of memorable moments, with huge sporting occasions such as the FIFA World Cup and golf's Ryder Cup providing some unforgettable moments.

Formula One provided one of the tightest drivers' championships in history, while Rafael Nadal and Roger Federer continued their epic rivalry on the tennis court.

As we wave goodbye to 2010, CNN's Candy Reid selects her top-five sporting moments of the last year.

5. Rafael Nadal wins the U.S. Open

The Spaniard joined an exclusive group of male tennis players when he won in New York for the first time. He became just the seventh to complete the career Grand Slam, and at 24 the youngest in the Open era. He did it in some style too, losing just five service games and one set along the way. It wrapped up the best year of his career to date and made him the undisputed world number one, well clear of his rival and friend, Roger Federer.

4. Sebastian Vettel clinches the F1 drivers’ championship

The Formula One season was the best in recent memory. Ahead of the final race in Abu Dhabi, four men still had a chance of taking motorsport's biggest prize. Fernando Alonso was in pole position for the title with Vettel's fellow Red Bull driver Mark Webber just behind. But it was the German who ended up as the champion, although he didn’t know it until after the checkered flag. He won the race and then found out his rivals hadn’t finished close enough to take the crown. A terrific ending to a fantastic season which saw 23-year-old Vettel become the youngest world champion in F1 history, eclipsing Lewis Hamilton's 2008 achievement.

3. Alberto Contador wins his third Tour de France

Lance Armstrong’s final Tour de France was a two-horse race, and the American wasn’t in the running. A series of mishaps meant that Contador and Andy Schleck were left to go head-to-head for the maillot jaune. The Saxo Bank rider looked like he would take the honors, until a controversial moment on stage 15. Late on in the stage, Schleck had a chain malfunction and Contador ignored cycling etiquette to attack. The defending champion seized the overall lead, and though Schleck vowed to have revenge he could not get back those lost seconds and the Spaniard won cycling's premier event for the third time in four years.

2. Europeans regain the Ryder Cup

It was a superb golfing year for Europe. Graeme McDowell won the U.S. Open and Martin Kaymer clinched the PGA Championship - the first time two Europeans had won majors in the same season for 11 years. The duo were then involved in the longest Ryder Cup in history. Much to everyone’s surprise, it came down to Monday’s final match at Celtic Manor – the first time it had gone to the wire in 19 years. McDowell was the hero. He hit what he called the best putt of his life on the 16th hole against U.S. player Hunter Mahan and went on to take the full point as Europe regained the biennial teams event in dramatic fashion.

1. Spain lift the World Cup

No football team had ever lost their first match at a World Cup and gone on to win the whole thing. Spain became the first on July 11, 2010. Having fallen to Switzerland 1-0 in their opener, the European champions were down, but as it soon emerged, definitely not out. After advancing from their group after two successive victories, a string of 1-0 wins followed. Andres Iniesta was the hero in the final against the Netherlands, netting the only goal of the game in extra-time. It didn’t matter a jot that Spain had won the World Cup with the fewest goals – eight. All that mattered was that they had the trophy in their hands for the first time. They became the first European nation to win the trophy outside of Europe, joining West Germany and France as the only countries to hold the world and European titles simultaneously.

Those are my five, what are yours? Perhaps Inter winning the treble or the longest tennis match in history? I’d love to read your comments, and you can tweet me at CandyReidCNN.

It is just under a year since Tiger Woods crashed his SUV into a fire hydrant near his Florida home and set in chain a sequence of events which saw his tangled personal life become front-page news for week after week.

It was a public relations disaster and Woods went into a self-imposed exile, only returning to competitive golf for the Augusta Masters in April.

A fourth-place finish at the first major led many to predict that it would take only a matter of weeks for the 14-time major winner to regain his former preeminence and dominate his fellow professionals.

But the opposite happened and despite the odd exception - another decent showing at the U.S. Open and dogged display at the Ryder Cup - it has been a dispiriting season for Tiger, culminating in his loss of the World No.1 spot after five years to England's Lee Westwood.

He is set to be win less in a year for the first time in his professional career and his target of equaling the record 18 majors of Jack Nicklaus looks a long way off.

Thoroughly deserved one might say, but whatever your views on Woods' private life, the fact is that every professional player owes him a huge debt of gratitude for attracting the massive prize money on offer as big corporations battled to be associated with him.

He was golf.

Tournaments lacking the American superstar were considered almost second-class affairs and TV-ratings plummeted if he was not involved. 'The Tiger effect' also surely had big influence on the decision by the IOC to include golf in the Olympic program in 2016.

But nobody could surely argue this was healthy state of affairs for a game played by millions on all continents to be so reliant on one man to represent its fortunes.

As Tiger battled his personal demons and with the world economy in recession, the game's money men must have taken a sharp intake of breath.

But they should be reassured. Golf survived without Tiger.

And it's actually been a thoroughly good thing that in the vacuum left by his fall from grace and fall the top spot, other players have stepped up to the mark.

37-year-old Westwood thoroughly deserves to be number one for his consistency, Phil Mickelson continues to delight and frustrate in equal parts, but snapping at their heels are a clutch of young guns led by PGA Championship winner Martin Kaymer, Northern Ireland pair Rory McIlroy and U.S. Open champion Graeme McDowell, Rickie Fowler, Ricky Barnes from the States, Ryo Ishikawa from Japan.

The list is growing, the Molinari brothers and Matteo Manassero, all from Italy, the latter the youngest European Tour winner at 17.

Of course, Tiger isn't going to take this on the chin and just walk away.

A fascinating theme for next year will be his struggle to get back to the top, to win another major, but this unhealthy obsession with one man is over for good and I think that's a good thing.